It was the betrayal that blessed me

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Sometimes we don’t see the blessing during the storm but trust me the sun will shine again.

I’ve noticed that every time I was betrayed it was wasn’t necessarily unexpected. It wasn’t like I didn’t see the red signs I just ignored them. When you ignore the red signs It will get so bad that you will have no choice but to let go.

 However, once you fully let go you will be blessed in so many ways. It’s a beautiful reality. You are capable of so much and not everyone is meant to join this beautiful new chapter of yours. There are times when I’m like wow I wish they could’ve joined this with me or been here to witness this. That’s my good heart talking when I think like that. Why else would I even want someone who’ve betrayed me or hurt me to enjoy the happiness and blessings that I have? It’s because I don’t carry around hate in my heart. I’m happy knowing that after everything I’m still able to love others and want happiness for everyone around me and those who were previously around me. I wish them all the best. Friends, family, and previous relationships.

Those that hurt me are the ones who helped me grow the most. I appreciate and I love them all for helping me reach my full potential and I’m not even done yet.

The betrayal like it or not was all apart of your journey in life.

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My Birthday Trip to Dubai

Last May I decided to celebrate my birthday in Dubai. My birthday was during Ramadan so I decided to travel the week before. I booked my hotel and flight through Expedia and all together we both paid $1500 a person for the flight and hotel stay.

 

We flew Air Canada and had one stop in Toronto. Air Canada was a decent airline. They offered breakfast, lunch, and dinner during their flight. I did not fly first class which I will more than likely do the next time around or flyEmirates.  It was actually cheaper to flyEmirates but we wanted to make a stop since we never been on a plane that long before.

The flight first was five hours long from LAX to Toronto and around 12 hours from Toronto to Dubai. We slept most of the flights. I know now that I can definitely be okay flying longer with no stops.We stayed at Jumeriah Emirates Tower Hotel

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When we first arrived  we visited the Dubai Mall and went out to eat. Dubai is absolutely gorgeous at night. I was amazed of how beautiful and safe I felt in Dubai.

 

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On Day 2 we went on the Dessert Safari tour.They picked us up from our hotel around 1:45pm and we went. The Evening Desert Safari Dubai came with Red Dune Bashing, Sandboarding, BBQ & Falcon Experience (Semi Private – Normal Dunes & V.I.P Camp Service)

I used Ocean Airs Travel to book this trip. Once you get there you can also ride ATVs for about 25 minutes for an additional charge. You can pay is USD or using your visa card.

https://www.oceanairtravels.com/emirates/dubai/day-tours-and-things-do-dubai/dubai-evening-desert-safari-bbq-dinner-falcon

 

 

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On the 3rd day we went on the hop on hop off tour bus. This was very fun and exciting. We stopped at Dubai Mall, Atlantis, Aquarium, underwater zoo, old Dubai, the souks, and etc. If you are interested in buying gold the souks are known for that and you can negotiate with them.

I included the link that I used to book this. You can go here to find out the stops and attractions that are included.

https://www.viator.com/tours/Dubai/City-Sightseeing-Dubai-Hop-On-Hop-Off-Tour/d828-5694DUBAI?pub=vcps

 

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On day 4 we decided to do the Abu Dhabi City Sightseeing Tour from Dubai. The tour guides Picked us on a shuttle 8:30 am from our hotel.

Our first few stops were at Ferrari World and the Emirates Palace.Afterwards we went to visit the world-famous Sheikh Zayed Mosque. They provided attire for us to wear because I had on a maxi dress. Women must be covered completely all the way down to their ankles. Your hair must also be covered before entering the mosque. They have people at the mosque that will assist you with clothing and also covering your hair.

We also went to visit the Emirates Palace which is a 7 start star luxury hotel.

 

We went to the Heritage Village where we ate lunch and collected souvenirs. The tour also drove us to Yas Island. We were able to visit the  Ferrari World Theme Park.
 

 

 

Venice Beach (4).https://www.viator.com/tours/Dubai/City-Tour-of-Abu-Dhabi-Sheik-Zayed-Mosque-Emirates-Palace-Marina-Mall/d828-9443P6?pub=vcps

 

On the last day we went to the Jumeriah Beach. The sand was so hot and the water was very clear but salty. The wind kept blowing sand in my eyes but it was still worth the visit. After the beach, we decided to cool off later at the water park. The water park was so much fun. We were able to visit for free because the admission came with the hotel stay. There were some cute locals that literally followed us around the park to hang out with us. I had a boyfriend at the time and my friend was married so we didn’t give them the time of day. We did not have to wear a cover up at the water park. I did feel like we were getting a lot of stares because most of the women were covered up and we were not.

 

In 2018 We Are…

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Investing More

I am making a commitment to investing more. Investing in myself more, businesses, stocks, and education. We tend to spend money on un important things such as clothes, going out to eat, partying, and etc. I’m not saying to stop doing those things I am suggesting that we spend some of the money we us for having fun into investing in our future. What we do in our 20s will help us in the future.

Owning Properties

I really would like to see more black ownership. I know that it’s hard especially with student loans, but I believe that it is very important to own something.

 

Traveling More

I believe that traveling is very important for personal growth. It humbles me in so many ways. I enjoy learning about other people’s cultures and learning how others thinks. The funniest thing to me is that even though we are so different we are really all the same. You don’t have to travel internationally because you can travel domestically as well. The United States is a beautiful country with a lot of diversity.

 

Loving each other More

Let’s send more love out to each other. Let’s help each other grow and build. If we can do one positive thing for someone every day that could make a difference. Let’s share love and be love.

 

Having Healthier Relationships

I’ve been enough unhealthy relationships to know what I do not want. Unhealthy relationships include family, friends, and significant others. I want to be uplifted and motivated. If someone is talking down on your dreams, goals, or your current state then that’s an unhealthy relationship. Relationships need to be uplifting and as I know people are not perfect I need the people around me to be self-aware and working to improve themselves. I have my faults but I am constantly trying to be better and to love better and I will be around those same types of people. Remove yourself from people who are constantly trying to bring up your past and faults as they will only tear you down. Let’s have healthier

Loving On Yourself

I’ve always heard about loving yourself. No one ever really told me what it meant. I always thought it meant knowing that you’re attractive, spoiling yourself, and being comfortable in the skin that you are in.

Loving yourself goes even deeper than that. I always knew that I was lucky in life. Scratch that. I was always BLESSED. It seemed like God always looked out for me.

I never gave myself credit. I always blamed it on because this person helped me, because God, because of “this”.

I had to go back and realize that it was because of them yes but also it’s because of ME! I made accomplishments because I chose to make the decision that I’ve made, I chose to love God, I chose to seek help from other, I chose to work hard. I chose to be great. I always discredited myself.

I am the bomb. No really I am. I am an amazing and smart person. I would always hear it from others but I didn’t believe it. WHY? Because I didn’t believe it myself.

I did not believe that I was smart or that I was anything special. I always thought I was regular who God just blessed.

No I am amazing. I have to stop putting my own self down. I am now realizing that I am amazing because of the choices that I made in my past. I am now more confident and self-aware. IMG_2705.jpg Continue reading

A Letter to My Future Husband..

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Dear Future Husband,

I know that you are probably out in the world trying to figure yourself out. You’re probably feeling lost right now or maybe you are happy. I hope that you are happy. If you aren’t l pray that when you are feeling down that you get back up and keep going. I hope you know that I too have my bad days.

I’m sure that life has knocked you down a few times. I’m sure that you’ve had your heart-broken and I am sure that you’ve broken a few hearts yourself. Life is preparing you for me and life is preparing me for you. I’m not sure if we have ever met before and if we have I am sure that when we do meet again we will be our best selves.

I am currently working on myself.  I have a lot of issues that I need to deal with. I also have a lot of goals that I would like to reach.  It would be wonderful to build with you but I am also not whole yet. I honestly know that everything is going to work out for you because the man who I will marry will be equally yoked with me. We will both be ambitious and we will be a power couple.

When two people meet they should be whole and happy within themselves. I am working on being the best me Physically, mentally, and spiritually and I hope you are doing the same. Don’t rush to be with me until you are prepared. Go to God and pray for me like I’m praying for you.

I promise that I won’t take you for granted and that I will be the best woman who I could be and I know that you will do the same.

I will be praying for your well-being and when we get married I will show you this and smile knowing that my prayers somehow helped you get through in life. We will smile knowing that even though we weren’t together physically, we were connected spiritually.

 

I love you,

 

Your future wife

 

 

8 Things You Should Do in Your Twenties

  1. Put yourself out there

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It is important that you put yourself out there. Go explore and meet new people. Tell people what you want to accomplish. You never know who that person knows or how they could help you. If you don’t put yourself out there then how will you ever accomplish your goals and dreams

2. Get in Shape

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When you get older your metabolism will start to slow down. While you are in your twenties it is important that you get in the best shape of your life. Keep yourself up because it will get harder as you get older and busier.

3. Take Risks

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This is the perfect time to take risks and make mistakes because at this age people are expecting you to do so anyways. If you aren’t married or have any children this makes it even easier. It’s easier for you to bounce back if you fail miserably.

4.Travel

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Traveling while you are young and able is important because as time passes you may be tied down to more responsibilities. Don’t worry about the money because money comes and goes but memories last forever. Traveling is also important for self-growth

5.Be Selfish

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There’s nothing wrong with being selfish in your twenties because at this age we have no idea what we are doing anyways.  We can’t help people if we are unable to help ourselves. This is the time where it is perfectly fine to make sure that YOU are good first.

6. Leave Your Comfort Zone

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I am a strong believer in ” Great things never came from comfort zones”. You will never know what you are fully capable of until you leave your comfort zone.  It’s easy to be comfortable. When you are uncomfortable you will have no choice but to grow. Growing is the best part of life. Please don’t let yourself be ordinary be the BEST you that you can be.

 

7. Fall in Love and Get your heartbroken

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Falling in love is wonderful and magical and being heartbroken is devastating.  Although they are completely different feelings the both release the power in you.  When you are in love you feel like you can accomplish anything. You feel like everything is so magical and amazing. When you’re heartbroken you seem to focus more or yourself growth and goals than ever before.  Both feelings will inspire you to be better and do better. You also learn a lot about yourself in the process.

8. Learn to be ok with not being okay

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It is perfectly okay to not be okay with your life or situation. Everyone has those moments. If you’re not okay tell someone. You do not have to go through it alone. I guarantee that you’re not alone and it’s perfectly normal.

 

 

 Do not let fear consume your Life.

” God placed the best things in life on the other side of your fears”

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I’ve always been very cautious in life, well kind of sort of lol, I have always been scared of failure.  I’m telling you that FAILURE was my worst nightmare. I would literally run away if I sensed that I could.

Two years ago my company gave my coworkers and I over 20 cities to choose from and we only had 2 days to decide.  After we chose a place we had ONE WEEK to move and to start our new position in a new city.

Do you know how terrified I was to have to move all of my things by myself across the country ALONE? I have never lived on my own ever. I was terrified.

I decided to move to California. I could’ve moved somewhere closer but I thought to myself “if I was going to move I might as well go big”.

As soon as I got on the plane I cried. I was finally leaving my comfort zone. No more being dependent on my family and friends. Now it was time for me to grow up.

Living here so far has been very challenging and rewarding at the same time. I’ve dealt with some really hard times to the point where I wanted to give up and just leave. I have gained so much confidence in myself. I am always overcoming fears. I am so amazed on how I am pushing forward and learning myself.

Most people come here and leave when things get tough but I am going to keep pushing forward. It’s easy to go back home instead of being in California with no support system but I feel like I’m here for a reason. Once I figure that out I will be ready for my next adventure!

 

Fear will not defeat me.